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[vdansk]

My Mom has started seeing her mother, who's been dead for almost 50 years.  She's sitting in one or another of the chairs in the room, and often says "Frederica, it's time to come home."  Mom is not at all disturbed by this.

When one of my patients has started seeing a dead relative telling them it's time to come home, not one of them has ever lasted a year.  Usually far less.  While Mom is physically doing quite well...well, this is a time of transition.

To twist the knife a little, Mom's functional recovery from 2 very bad and 1 moderately bad fracture is impressively good; her range of motion is probably in the top 5% for people with her injuries.  Her muscle memory is pretty good.  Unfortunately, her cognitive memory runs 2-15 minutes; if the conversation pauses for a few minutes, she may forget who she's talking to.

The good moments were good.  She loves the girls, loves us, is delighted to see us and talk to us. The bad moments...she forgets pretty quickly, which is a blessing.

 

 

Comments

Yikes, Hope.

[xanath.livejournal.com]

My mother has been dreaming of her mother for the last 18 months. I hate to say it, but her health has deteriorated since then.

My grandmother hasn't told her it's time to go "home," yet--or if she has, Mom hasn't said. :(

::hugs:: I wish you well, and I hope you will have some peace of mind and heart before this is over.

Re: Yikes, Hope.

[vdansk]

Dreams like that are mildly ominous. It's a lot scarier when the person seeing the dead relative is awake at the time.

Interestingly, my mother has sung off-key since overhearing a neighbor say that she couldn't carry a tune at about age 7. For the last 6 months, she has been singing on-key--and very nicely. She forgot that she couldn't sing.

I'm wondering if she also forgot that she couldn't see ghosts. spirits, what have you....

[chris-warrior.livejournal.com]

The good moments were good. She loves the girls, loves us, is delighted to see us and talk to us. The bad moments...she forgets pretty quickly, which is a blessing.

i hope you can hold on to those good moments. i know it's how i get by, watching my dad. *HUG*